This week I experienced disappointment. We all experience this almost everyday, but this particular instance meant a little bit more to me. In reality it fell somewhere between ‘not getting the Barbie doll I’d been hoping for’ and ‘no one remembering my birthday’. It’s not that big of a deal – but regardless, it still made me sad. But since I KNEW that it was not as big of a deal to me as it might be to others, I decided that I would let myself feel sad and get it out, and then I was going to move on. This appears to have worked because today I’m not even that sad anymore, at least nowhere near where I was before.
But the whole time I’ve been trying to think of all of the positives that could come from this disappointment – and there are quite a lot. And as I am the consummate optimist, I started rattling off all the good things that would come from this situation, even as I was still sad about it. That helped a little (but not much) when I was moping, but now that I am past it, these positives give me a direction about what to do with my energy. I wish I could be more specific, but I believe that part of the reason that I was disappointed (over someone else) was because people know (or at least think) that I’m generally a low drama person and even if I was disappointed, I could handle it well. So, one of the bright points if you look at it this way is that people have confidence in me to be mature and not throw a fit.
How often when we are disappointed do we actively seek to look at the bright side of things? Usually not that often.
In a much deeper (and way more important than my little deal) discussion of this, John Piper wrote a short post on the Desiring God blog this week. Check it out if you’re interested.